Marriage is the topic for the blog gang and I decided to chime in.
When you hear the word Marriage, you either smile or groan!
I believe people enter into marriage with this fantasy that everything is bliss! As if it is no big deal and it really is a big deal you are taking two people man and woman with two different temperaments and living together. There is this author named John Gray who wrote a book “Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus”? I love the title because it says it all. It describes the differences of men and women. Like we really need a man to write a book and tell us the difference. I do agree Men are from Mars. In my case my husband does act like he was born on a different planet. He sees things in a completely different way than I do.
Personally, what I think would make marriages work is when you get married you need two things one a degree in psychology and two a house next door.
What I keep asking myself is what is the secret of a good marriage? After asking and brow beating my husband he finally told me that he was like Ponce de Leon and looking for the fountain of youth, which for him was the easier quest. By the way, he had taken the fifth on that question. He truly is a smart man!
It is hard to figure out the man’s mind and they say us women are complex, but I think men are really from Mars! When my husband and I argue it is so senseless because we both think we are right and we do not resolve anything. We do have one rule in our house that we do not go to bed angry and on those nights, we just don’t sleep.
There are days I just have to keep the psychology book open to relationships and keep reading but it is difficult to wrap my mind around it as the guy in the book looks nothing like my husband and he isn’t wearing any clothes.
My husband likes to be the man of the house and I do pretend that he is to save his ego. That is important for a healthy marriage. I read that in the psychology book too!
I was under the impression that marriage is a partnership. I should have gotten that in writing and notarized. The partnership ended when I had kids.
I know when I took my vows for a happy marriage I had no idea I was signing up for a life sentence in San Quentin. In my marriage, there is no parole, and no getting out for good behavior. I must admit I do get three squares a day, because my husband likes to cook. He thinks he is Emeril and bam if you like fleshy bacon and coke for breakfast he is your man. He cooks in his boxers too, which even after all these years he still makes me sizzles as much as the bacon does. Bam! He has sexy legs!
I enjoy cooking too but not as much as my husband but I have to say on the days I cook it is fun to entertain the firefighters in my neighborhood. I had no idea they made house calls.
My husband can find something to do for hours in the garage, I went out there to spy on him once, and there is nothing in our garage so I think that is his man cave and he is hiding out. What about us women don’t you think we should have a place to hide out?
I love when my husband will ask me to do something and I do it and then he tells me he meant something else. First English is the only language I understand and secondly, I remind him I am not psychic and if I were, I would be doing two shows nightly in Vegas. Do I look like the Sylvia Brown?
I want to say that marriage is like a full time job you have to make everybody happy including yourself and to make it work you have to set boundaries and have to have the same likes, sense of humor and hopefully the same thinking when it comes to values and morals for raising your children.
What is the key to a happy marriage? That is the million-dollar question! Is it that we really have met our soul mates or is it complacency? My husband is a good guy. He puts up with the kids and me and has not left home yet.
My parents were married 30 years and when my father wanted out of the relationship, he died. My husband knows this rule so he is sticking around for a while.
I do enjoy being married. My husband is a good guy. He is very affectionate and always compliments me on how great I am and how I still drive him crazy after all these years and that’s in a good way. He is a keeper!
Remember for better or worse and I am banking on that even if it kills me!
